A note to anonymous

Tuesday, June 19, 2007

I got my first hate comment and I wanted to address it head-on, because, who doesn't like to stir the pot a little? (by the way, if you'd like to see what I'm responding to, head down to my post about the email and check out the comment).

First, lovely anonymous, you must not know me well. Or if you do, you just don't pay attention. I am a teacher, I have a degree from a VERY good college (I even received high honors on my thesis) and for the record, I worked my ass off for it. So your tip about school being hard work? Totally unnecessary. In fact, I could probably teach you a thing or two about hard work. Second, you seriously need to re-examine your sense of humor, or better yet, see if you can pull it out of your ass, along with whatever pole/stick/object you have lodged in it. Because if you knew me, you'd realize that I study like crazy, so calling people "dorks" is, how do you say that again? Oh yes, a JOKE.

You were correct about one thing, I am calling this professor's rules worthless and stupid, and do you know why? BECAUSE THEY ARE. You're right that I don't get passing grades, but that may have had something to do with the fact that I didn't get to finish my quiz, because, and I'm guessing you're also not a professor of math, if I had answered those 2 questions correctly, which I'm going to smugly assume I would, I would've passed the quiz. Pretty ironic that if the professor that allowed me to finish the quiz, that I did not break any rules taking (FOR THE RECORD), I would've passed. Hmmmm. Now, perhaps we should re-examine your claim. I didn't pass because I didn't like the rules? Weird. It seems like I didn't pass because I didn't get to finish it. Iiiiiiinteresting.

Yes, I disagree with my professor's policies, but I follow them. I did not cheat, I did not break her rules, I just disagreed with them, and I sent her an email regarding that (and it was a rather polite email). Every change that has been made in history is the result of someone challenging a rule that they feel to be unjust. I'm not going to pretend like I'm some great knight fighting for a supremely important cause, but you know what? I am allowed to disagree with someone. And you're allowed to disagree with me, which is why I'm not taking your comment down.

That said, I think it's a little cheap to write a comment like that and not leave a name. I said a few posts ago that anonymous comments were okay, what I meant was that you didn't need a blogger account, you could just sign your name at the bottom of the comment. But then again, when you write something unnecessarily mean to someone you don't even know, I'm guessing that you don't so much want to sign it, huh?

And for the record, the correct grammatical structure is 2 spaces after a period, regardless of whether you're using a typewriter or the most amazing computer in the universe. That's something I learned at school. Where I studied. If your word processor double spaces for you, fantastic, but that doesn't mean you aren't supposed to double space when typing in a program that doesn't do it for you. It just means you're lazy.

And P.S. to your P.S. If you feel a need to come to someone's private blog, leave an unsigned comment, maybe YOU're the one who needs to work on communication. Because to me, you're just a big, fat chicken. If you'd like to continue this elsewhere, my email address is: kt.irvin@gmail.com and I'd love to talk it over with you somewhere else. Don't trash my blog.

And a note to all readers. If you disagree with me, or don't like me, or better yet, just want to be unkind, how's about you just stop reading? I'd love you to be here, I really would but if you disagree with me so much that you need to be nasty to me, I'm pretty sure that this isn't the place for you and I'm pretty sure I don't want to waste my time dealing with you. I don't like to be mean, but I will not stand aside while you belittle me. I am not a child, I am not an idiot and no one is forcing you to read. Please stay if you're happy reading, please leave me alone if you're not.


kim said...

Hey you! Remember me? Kim? The one who will NEVER be anonymous, but who also would NEVER leave a nasty comment for you. Well, maybe even not so much nasty as, boy!, what a "tone" he/she took with you! Condescending is the word that comes to mind. In a way, don't you find it somewhat interesting? I can't help but wonder what button got pushed that caused him/her to react in that way to someone he/she doesn't know. UNLESS he/she DOES know you (cue the dun-dun-da-dun mystery music)! Could it be The Professor? I just do not understand the WHY of leaving anonymous comments to someone who did not solicit (or care about, for that matter) my opinion...ya know? If I'm going to spout platitudes and blast somebody, I want CREDIT for it; none of that anonymous crap--HA! I guess it just goes to show that it doesn't matter if it's CB, blog, or what...there are TROLLS everywhere! And I agree with you about the two spaces after the period; I started learning all of that stuff in 1972 and it was then, is now, and (my personal opinion) always will be TWO spaces after the period. Congrats to anyone who has a computer that does stuff like that automatically but, I too, had an underprivileged childhood and have to do my own spacing on my computer. I'm sure that this somehow can be blamed on my Mother not spending enough time with me as a child. Or maybe my computer does add the two spaces on its own, but I'm too computer illiterate to realize I can get my computer to do the hard stuff for me. That would also somehow be my Mother's fault (for not spending enough time with me as a child).

Aren't people just too interesting for words? HAHAHAHA!

Now here's something to make you feel so much better and to, once again, make your blogging life worth living. I WILL ALWAYS BE YOUR FAN, AND I WILL ALWAYS BE ON YOUR SIDE AND STICK UP FOR YOU. UNLESS SOMEONE I LIKE MORE THAN I LIKE YOU STARTS PICKING ON YOU. THEN I'LL TURN ON YOU IN A NEW YORK MINUTE. HAHAHAHAHA!

Seriously, I will always be your fan, and I will never go anonymous on you.


Anonymous said...

Hi Katie! I'm a lurker that's coming out of the shadows on this one. Good for you standing up for yourself with the professor and with "anonymous". This is your place to let it all out and vent if you need. Why would anyone else feel it's right to run you down on your own blog? Best of luck with summer school!

Best wishes :)


Anonymous said...

OMG!! Yes, keep putting two spaces after the period. Only lazy and ignorant people don't!!
You are the kind of person I want as a teacher for my grandchildren. I know you are thinking about leaving teaching and getting into another career - it will be a great loss for education.

Anonymous said...

First, I don't hate you, dear, I'd have to actually know you to hate you. But it seems to float your boat to call me Anonymous Hate Commenter, so if it makes you happy, continue, by all means.

It actually wasn't a nasty comment, it was simply very honest. While I'm very amused by Kim's theory, I can say with quite a bit of confidence that I am, most assuredly, NOT your professor. (Oh, and Kim? Posting something on the internet, where anyone in the entire world can access it, and leaving comments wide open is considered by most to be soliciting opinions.) I am a professor, just not yours. Your post set me off because it just reeked of a sense of entitlement, something I get from my students quite frequently, and which is very annoying. Everyone wants to be a special exception--do you know how many grandmothers miraculously die right around midterm and finals time? I'm sure your professor hears the same excuses about computers freezing quite frequently. Why on earth should she make an exception just for you, a student who isn't even studying for the quizzes?

You assumed that you would have passed the quiz had you had more time, however, there is no guarantee that you would have gotten those two questions right. Your theory is blown out of the water because there is a huge hole in it--you were not guaranteed to get those questions right, so therefore, your argument that you would have passed had you just been allowed to answer the final two questions is moot.

Obviously, you said something in your email to set off your professor. You can take that comment and learn from it, or you can exert energy in creating entire blog posts in response to anonymous commenters that set you off and completely ignore that important information. Did you address her by Dr. So-and-so? Did you actually include a salutation, such as, "Dear Dr. Evil Bitch," in your email? Obviously your tone came across to her as entitled and dictatorial, otherwise she would not have responded so strongly to your email. If your email had been written to convey a polite and respectful tone, she would hardly have responded the way she did. That's very valuable information that would really benefit you in future interactions with professors, should you choose to learn from it.

I can't tell you how many times students have told me things are not in the syllabus, or not posted, and I sigh in exasperation, then open the syllabus and point to exactly where the policy is written. It's much more likely that she did post that, and you overlooked it. I have had many students tell me they disagree with policies or think they are stupid--quite often, it is because the student does not understand the reasoning behind the policy. (Your post makes it sound like you did not understand the reasoning behind your professor's policies--it is actually quite reasonable to insist that people not use notes or texts when taking a quiz, whether you agree with it or not.)

So, how would you feel if YOUR students started questioning your directions, and telling you your policies were stupid? I imagine you would be pretty ticked off, just as your professor was, and for good reason.

I stand behind my comments. If you are expecting that you don't need to study, you won't earn passing grades. This seems patently obvious, yet you are blaming your quiz failure on your computer freezing up. Perhaps if you had studied for the quiz, you could have completed the questions in a more timely manner, thus finishing the quiz before your computer froze.

Finally, EVERY computer automatically compensates for extra spacing after periods, ladies. Every single computer on the market does that. If you read my original comment, I did explain why (it has to do with kerning, and how a typewriter handled kerning--not well--versus how a computer does--very well). Two spaces after a period are no longer necessary. But, by all means, please feel free to continue doing something that takes extra effort yet is completely and totally unnecessary. It really won't bother me at all.